Kids have the right idea……

When I was a kid nothing made me happier then than to spend time sitting on the lake fishing with my father in the summer time. We would talk about everything under the sun and I can say that’s where I learned a few life lessons. We would rejoice in how many fish caught, laughed at things people did throughout the day on the lake and just truly enjoyed each other company. I could talk to him about anything. I can still smell the sweet breeze that would blow as I recall these imagines in my head. But as we become adults we feel as though we need more….more money, bigger house and all of the material things that symbolize that we’ve arrived. Now don’t get me wrong; do I want and need a bigger house with a growing family? YES! Would I like to make more money at my current job? Absolutely! And those that know me can tell you that I am not a “materialist” person but you get the point; having “stuff” is not a bad thing. However, I have and forever believe that it’s the little things that truly make a person happy.


On a daily basis I expect my children to do as I say and learn the lessons I am trying to teach them about responsibilities and life. There are times I get frustrated because they don’t do what they are told or pay attention to what I am trying to teach them. When I come home after work I get tackled with hugs and kisses as if I have been away from home for weeks at a time. During the week and on the weekends I can’t seem to get a moment to myself because my kids always want to be around me. Now I can take it as a compliment as being a cool mom or get frustrated because my house is never quiet unless they are in the bed. I just know that they love me no matter what.

Nothing makes my kids happier then to spend time with me and it does not matter if we are home, window shopping or at the library. I realized that history has been repeating its self the whole time and I had not even noticed it. It was not the children that had not learned the lesson but it was me as an adult. (As you know, adults are all knowing….NOT) Kids show us every day that it’s the little things such as hugs, kisses and a simple I love you that makes them happy. It’s sitting on the couch on a Friday night with a greasy bag of popcorn that might be slightly burnt watching a movie that we have seen 10 times before. It’s not about the movie or the burnt popcorn but about the time they get to be in that space, in that moment and time with me.

With kids, it’s not about money or”things” it’s about time spent with each other. So for a moment, forget about the house, the money and things and spend something that money can NEVER buy no matter how much you have which is time. So no matter how frustrated I get with my kids I hope they never change because kids have the right idea……it’s us as adults that have it twisted.

I Am Not My Hair………

I was told by my man that I “aggressed” him. I laughed because this is a term he got from the movie “Breakin’ All the Rules” with Jamie Fox, Morris Chestnut, Anthony Anderson and Gabrielle Union. It’s a pretty funny movie and shows how we over think relationships instead of going with the natural flow of things. In order to explain what he is talking about I have to back up a bit. (Stay with me)

If you have known me for some length of time then you know that I have ALWAYS had long hair that has passed my shoulders. I have always been told that I have “good hair” (I hate that term!) Personally I think any type of hair on your head is good but that’s another blog all together.

My hair has always been a way people described me. That would drive me crazy! Ok I do have a name! Growing up my mother really had no clue how to handle my hair because it was – Much! Yeah just one word described my hair - Much!! It was a big curly uncontrollable bush of hair.

I either looked like Michael Jackson (Thriller Days) when it was wet or Diana Ross when it was dry! Imagine the frustration as a child. So I was on my own to figure out this hair thing myself. My mom would put my hair in nothing but ---Wait for it…. Wait for it. You guessed it – a ponytail!! On a good day OMG I would have more then ONE!! How cool. :-| Please tell me you caught the sarcasm. Well, once I hit high school I said enough is enough and had to figure something out.

I would hear comments like “OMG if I had your hair I would style it different everyday”, “If only I had your hair you couldn’t tell me nothing, I would whip my hair back and forth” OK hold the hell up Willow because this mess was nothing you could whip! This was beyond a mess as I saw it and needed to be fixed. But over the years I figured it out. I love my blow dryer w/comb!! : )

Fast forward to last year. I decided that I needed a change so you guessed it I cut my hair right above my ears. Its only hair right? Well you would have thought I committed a sin that God forgot to add to the 10 commandments. I guess 11 was Thou shall not cut long hair?!

Going from hair down my back to hair above my ears was so awesome and liberating. Now I understand what women are talking about. You feel light! Ahhhhh!! Not to mention I have not one, not two but three daughters with you guessed it –a head full of damn hair!!!

I still don’t understand why people feel they have the right to tell you what they want you to do with your hair. As long as you are happy with it then da hell with anybody else and what they think. Its only hair and if you don’t know by now it does grow back. Currently I am letting my hair grow back and when I feel like it I just might cut it AGAIN!! I am me – I am not my hair.

Until next time be who God intended for you to be : )

Days like today

Today is one of those days where silence is golden
Being left to reflect on the past, present and future
Forgiving those in your past for wrong doing
Mostly forgiving yourself to being mad
Release of resentment and relentless of the mind
Reflecting back from time from time

Feeling as if life is passing me by
Unable to move due to nothing but self
Attempting to gain self confidence in hidden talents
Call it audacity that with each day I continue
Having bumps in the road
Bruised but far from broken
Standing on the edge looking down admiring the view
How far I have come quickly realizing how far I must go

Looking forward to each day and know regardless of
The weather the sun will shine on me even in the rain
Finding time to enjoy the journey along the way
Daily lists and goals to stay focused but days like today
When I can’t see the forest for the trees

I swallow my regrets and learn from them
I eat a piece of humble pie praying not to choke
Come out of hiding and muster up enough strength to smile
So grateful that I am not where I was but now
See the light at the end of the tunnel and know
It’s more then bright…


The Idle Mind of a Gemini
2-24-10